This is why when Alicia Keys says in her song Love is Blind, she is
talking about that love that is so abundant; it pours out of her, loving the one she loves past her own idea of self: her ego. This
is the kinda love you'll see when someone is willing to risk their life for another without much regard to self because ego-less love says, this person is you; so you must protect you no matter what!
The pain of losing an ego-less love; is more painful for the lover left behind for this person became apart of your psyche, your heart, your spirit,=whole soul being.
So in a sense, the ego-less lover would feel as if they in fact died.
Ego-less love is rare but Ego love abounds. Ego love is temporary and stops when the person feels as if they're no longer your equal. So then this love was that of a false ego power selfishness which says...I'll only love you if your beneath me and take all my 'shit'.
That's not love but slavery and we all need to get out of our ego selves for a bit to genuinely enjoy, appreciate, and love a person's character fully; knowing that differences abound, you both have that true soul connect and are truly good to one another.
Ego less-Spiritual-True Love Journey. Try it out once in your life...it will change how you experience the world; your life just may become alright with its own inner richness unique to your individual world and connective to a larger ego-less love collective community out here in the universe streams.